Diary of a Wom'n

Earlier I mentioned that Justin and I got into a fight. To recap, he pledged to accompany me to my friend's wedding a few Sundays ago. We even shopped for new outfits together for it. Well, Sunday rolls around and I still don't hear from him.

When does he call? Midnight. I was mad as hell. I refused to talk to him for two weeks although he consistently called me every night to try to talk.

Finally he wrote me an email msg filled with the most confusing metaphors and allusions. By the time I finished reading, I'd hoped it would all make sense to me like a puzzle but it didn't. I was confused and pissed because I only understood one line throughout the meaningless drivel in which he apologized for not attending the wedding with me. I thought, gee thanks for that one line.

Anyway, I emailed him back and explained that he has a problem with being passive. I told him that he's not good at solving problems at all when it comes to friends and that he'd rather hide like a scared turtle until he feels its safe to come out into the world. That way, he doesn't have to confront the problem and by then the problem will have "went away". Obviously that's not how the world works.

Well, the end of the story is that we're talking but I don't think he's going to change anytime soon. He's pretty stuck in his passive ways. He doesn't take much charge of his life or make any contributions to the world. He's the type that waits for things to happen or hopes someone else will take care of it. He can be a huge disappointment at times. I seriously doubt he'll ever get married. I think he's going to follow in his older brother's footsteps and live at home with his parents for the rest of his life.

GW