Diary of a Wom'n

TW moved out on the first of August which was a Sunday.  It was not an easy day.  First of all, TW's unwillingness to move out was apparent to me a few days before that day.  Here's how I know:

1.  He didn't show any enthusiasm when the landlord agreed to rent him the room for $50 less.
2.  He didn't call the landlord to tell him he accepts the costs and let him know that he wants to move in.
3.  He didn't get the exact address of the place.
4.  He didn't pack his belongings

So what happened?  On the morning of moving day, he goes to church and stays out all morning and all afternoon.  We had no idea what time he was planning to come and we had no way to get in touch with him.  After he enjoyed his time, he saunters home at about 2.30pm.

Keep in mind he has not packed yet.  It's moving day.  And we had the truck till only about 5pm.

So what does this fool do?  Starts shoving his things in a box and jamming clothes in suitcases.  He had to make a mad dash to pack up like his bottom was on fire.  With all the rushing and dashing, I knew he was bound to forget something in the house and just as I predicted, I later found he forgot a few pictures on my bookshelf.  Idiot.

What I can't figure out is how do you leave packing to the last hour? This isn't packing to go on vacation with the eventuality of coming back home, this is moving out for good.  He didn't even come to any agreement with the landlord.  He didn't call to confirm anything with him.  As far as the landlord knew, nobody was moving into the place.

In all honesty, I think TW wanted to brush the idea of moving out under the carpet because he didn't want to do it anymore.  He didn't want to commit to hsi plans anymore.  And he hoped that we wouldn't say anything about it and just let it pass and revert back to him living here as before.  Just doing the same thing everyday.

I can't decide whether he has failed himself or he was failed by his society.  Who's to blame for his total incompetence at everything?

GW

Today's horoscope is very insightful.

Thursday, Aug 5th, 2010 -- Your core values around material possessions can strongly impact the decisions you make today. If you have childhood recollections of dissatisfaction, you could be motivated now to accumulate more than you need. If you link the idea of happiness with collecting money or things, you might wonder what you are missing. You can free yourself from your past if you stay focused on the present moment. By Rick Levine

GW

I just came back from Amy's wedding. It was a western wedding with some Hungarian elements such as the dancing and wedding customs. The banquet hall was nothing uncommon but the food was good. Her brother was the MC and he was great. He seems like a good brother.

I thought that being there was going to make me feel out of place, annoyed and far away. I was only a little annoyed. Amy's mother was her usual self - a cold fish with a stone where her heart should be. Glad I don't have to see her often. She was the source of my annoyance. I didn't care for her little princess either: source of annoyance no. 2.

Normally, weddings remind me of things I don't have, a large family, many brothers and sisters, a big  network of friends. Amy's husband's friends were amazing; they all - about 6 of them - flew over here from Hungary to support him and be part of his wedding. How amazing is that?

I think I overcame that usual empty feeling by delighting in the fact that I have reached my own milestones. And remembered the fact that I do have my network of close friends. I don't have a big family but that's okay. Joy doesn't come in numbers, it comes in small packages anyway.

GW