Passive Men?
An old fling of mine, Ira, once said woman want jerks. They want ***holes who treat their women like crap. What he meant was woman don’t want a man who cares for them too much. They want, instead, according to the said expert, someone who is disinterested and often neglectful. In other words, I guess, someone who’s perpetually provides resistance and a bit of a challenge. The last point makes a degree of sense, I think. For many things, working to get something has a satisfying feeling to it. It becomes more valued. You take it for granted less.
Well, this was a lot of talk for someone like Ira who was unbelievably passive. He was like a variation of a jerk. Half the time I was screaming at him in my mind, "Throw me a bone, will ya!"
Once, I nearly had a panic attack because I found out I wouldn't be graduating at an intended time (spring) because I was half a credit short. I was afraid this was going to interfere with my teacher's college application. At the time that I found out, I was already IN teacher's college but I had thought this new development was going to terminate my admission to teacher's college. It so happened that it didn't terminate anything but before I knew this, I was talking to Ira about it, clearly distressed and worried. His response was a muffled, "Oh." And then a long pause.
It's like I was talking to a wall! I got no emotion or feeling from him! I often complained to him about it. I used to joke with him that I want to make him super angry so that I can see a little passion out of him. That he was devoid of passion and should be more expressive. He said to me that after a discussion with his friends, his friends said he (Ira) is the most passionate person they know.
What a joke.
Well, this was a lot of talk for someone like Ira who was unbelievably passive. He was like a variation of a jerk. Half the time I was screaming at him in my mind, "Throw me a bone, will ya!"
Once, I nearly had a panic attack because I found out I wouldn't be graduating at an intended time (spring) because I was half a credit short. I was afraid this was going to interfere with my teacher's college application. At the time that I found out, I was already IN teacher's college but I had thought this new development was going to terminate my admission to teacher's college. It so happened that it didn't terminate anything but before I knew this, I was talking to Ira about it, clearly distressed and worried. His response was a muffled, "Oh." And then a long pause.
It's like I was talking to a wall! I got no emotion or feeling from him! I often complained to him about it. I used to joke with him that I want to make him super angry so that I can see a little passion out of him. That he was devoid of passion and should be more expressive. He said to me that after a discussion with his friends, his friends said he (Ira) is the most passionate person they know.
What a joke.
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