Diary of a Wom'n

For every call that I get from a guy, I wish I could redirect them to this post;

You've reached the virtual box of Grace Wonderful.  I'm sorry I can't see or speak to you right now but due to the recent random events of crime against women inflicted by high society men, I don't wish to be in your company for the next 6 months.  I have a temporary abhorrence for the phallocentric world and anything masculine except for small dogs (the canine kind).  Any propositions from you for a weekend date or midweek dinner night will be immediately and thoroughly rejected.  All messages left on my phone will be deleted before being reviewed and all emails imploring me to contact you will be dutifully deleted and potentially marked as "junk mail".  Should you wish to ignore my wishes and continue to seek me out, please accept my condolences now for I will taser you in the near future and then send you a restraining order.  Thank you and have a wonderful day.

But it's not all men that disgust me right now.  My close friend Kunle is a sweetheart and this guy I'm crushing on is all heart.  It's the guys that are so persistent in calling me and pushing me to see them that turn me off right now.  I don't need that and I certaintly don't need to be guilted into doing anything I don't want to do or can't do, for that matter.  I can't tell you how extremely busy I am with work.  A teacher's job seriously doesn't end at 5:00 pm.  It extends beyond that into the evening and then carries over to the weekend and into the wee hours of the night.  I'm doing admin work, maintaining contact with parents, writing up IEPs, lesson planning, unit planning, marking, etc.  Clearly I'm stressed out.

And I explain this to people, very clearly what my day involves.  So forgive me if I get a little frustrated when people say to me (especially men) "you don't even call me/answer my calls." or "I'm so upset with you - you're avoiding me.  I needed to talk to you and you didn't even answer my calls" or "Can I please see you right now?"

How about, "I'm sorry to hear that you're so busy." or "Is there anything I can do to help?" or give me suggestions as to how I can be less stressed out.  For crying out loud, why would you put more stress on someone by shouldering your own problems on them when they are in the middle of their own stressful dilemma.

That's what happened when Joel called me this week while I was at work and I was just rushing to go to a meeting at that point and he pulls the "you're ignoring me" crap right after I finished telling him how frickin busy things have been with me (but rightly so b/c this is my first permanent position).

Anyway, I just have short patience for this kind of thing b/c it's selfishness.  It's selfish b/c they're implying that they're time and they're worries/comfort is more important than mine.

GW